She can’t believe how he reacted to a seemingly innocent suggestion of hers regarding their family budget. The woman regrets even raising this topic with her spouse, because of his anxiety and anger.
But, on the other hand, she’s tired of how things are arranged in their family, when she must pay for everything on her own, and all she wants is justice.
Sofia honestly believes that the financial situation in her family is unfair.
Sofia, 40, has shared the details of her complicated situation with her husband at the moment. The desperate woman can’t find the way out and doesn’t want to hurt anyone, but her life with her spouse has become unbearable after she raised a question that turned out to be very painful for her husband.
The woman opened her letter, saying, “I’m 40 and my husband Robert is 41, we’ve been married for 2 years. The situation in our family is very tense. I earn twice more than my husband. He earns fine, way more than average.
I’m saving a lot, and I’m definitely not frugal.
I absolutely like my nice things, but I still manage to have an emergency fund, a holiday fund, a medical fund for our cats, and a fund for whatever big spending is coming my way. I take care of such things like a big dental work or home renovation. I invest a bit as well.”
Robert has a different attitude to money.
The woman goes on with her story, saying, “On the contrary, my husband seems to burn through his money. It’s always ’lend me this or lend me that.’ We have separate budgets, it’s like it was always done in my family.
I don’t really care who pays for groceries, and Robert cooks, cleans and does the majority of housework. But recently, I suggested that we share bills, because they obviously went up after he moved in. Now I’m not able to save as much as I could before our marriage.”
Sofia confessed, “I did expect a normal attitude about this proposal. I couldn’t even imagine that Robert would turn out to be so vulnerable about a suggestion that would work for the majority of progressive families. His reaction left me dumbfounded.”
