This eventually exploded into a shouting match, at which point OP wrote she left the room upset. Eventually, the fiancé finished his game and came out to the kitchen to scold her, saying: “We are getting married, you will become my financial BURDEN. Any money you take in is mine also. It was incredibly selfish of you to make such a fool out of me in front of my friends and giving them false hope of a holiday.”

In her post, the woman then wrote that she left the house without saying a word and went to stay at her friend‘s place. She concluded by asking whether she was being an a*****e.

Following her post, the woman received an outpouring of empathy and solidarity from fellow online users.

“Ok so he has shown you that he thinks of you as a burden and is planning on spending money that isn’t actually his on his ‘boys’. And he’s screaming at you because you won’t fall in with his plans. You’re nuts if you actually marry him,” one person wrote.

Another added: “You really want to marry this guy? There are 2 problems: 1. He assumed he’s entitled to the money. 2. He assumed he can spend it on a discretionary item that does not include you. Pt2. is the bigger problem.”

This user chimed in with: “Stop the wedding. Do not marry this guy. First, … wow he’s got credit card debt he’s never paid off? Living beyond his means is a HABIT. Second… what’s his is his, and what’s yours is his? Oh honey NO. Third… the rage? entitlement and DARVO … projecting you would be ‘the burden’ on him in the relationship? this man exhibits all the classic Narcissist tells.”

They continued: “Your grandparents last gift to you wasn’t just the money, but the wisdom of who this guy really is underneath. No character, abusive, entitled, parasitic. Run.”